I was checking past posts on Thought"full"ness the other day and came across a great comment on the post, Don't Assume Anything, which gave me different insight to the phrase. She commented about assuming things about herself that might not be true(you can go read the comment if you like on that post). I had not thought that I had assumed things about myself, but after talking this morning with my workout buddy(great therapy!*S*) we came to the conclusion that it's very possible to do.
I absolutely loved going to Rapid Eye Certification and loved the people there and really felt so much love and acceptance there; however, there are so many amazing people there that I assumed that I didn't measure up to them! In consequence of that assumption, I put up some walls and wasn't able to be as fully involved and learn as much as I would have if I had let myself be present in the experience. Don't get me wrong, I learned so much and would not trade that training and experience for anything, but I could have learned and experienced more if I hadn't put some short walls up.
Some of us assume we don't measure up to those around us; assume we're not smart enough, assume we're not thin enough to wear cute clothes, etc.(you can add your self-assumptions here). There are a myriad of negative things we can assume about ourselves; however, in reality, those assumptions aren't the truth. We can step outside of ourselves and our experience and see that we are more than we think of ourselves sometimes. Most people don't make the assumptions about us that we do!
What are those negative assumptions about ourselves doing to us? (because we do get results from what we think and see about ourselves) In my experience during Rapid Eye Certification I lost out on some of my experience which I am sad to say. If I assume I'm not cute enough or outgoing enough, what will my result be? Will I miss out on some great experiences or will I not allow myself to participate in growing experiences? (now, we don't all have to be the same; we all feel comfortable in different situations and have different talents and I am certainly not saying we all need to be the same, but we can be our best selves).
Maybe the trick to not assuming untruths about ourselves is just to get to know ourselves a little better; to value who we are and have gratitude for who we are; we'll never be anyone else! (I would love all kinds of different thoughts on this subject)
"If you insist on measuring yourself, put the tape around your heart rather than your head...."